For instance, if Mr XM is arguing blindly, then the person’s ego is telling the person if he agrees with let’s say, Mr XY, then he is a loser, or he is stupid. So when a party has an apology coming is like soothing to the ego, it’s like a release, it disarms that threatened and bruised ego.įurthermore, even if one cannot achieve an immediate result like settlements or reconciliation, but at least they can come to a state where parties are more willing to address the fact. Thus, the ego pumps itself up and is ready to receive blows and give blows. They will be able to acknowledge each other and understand where they are coming from, which is important for the ego because when the parties are fighting the ego is bruised, and it is threatened. Now one party can see the other party and vice versa. A lot of bottled up emotions, aggression, anger and frustration, can let out. However, mediation offers that opportunity to sit down with each other, and if they have an excellent mediator, they will be able to listen, hear each other out. In view of this, we pointed out that in litigation when people are fighting, they do not hear each other. In order words, it is his ego- that accepts or mellows down at least. For example, where a victim of a crime offers the offender an apology especially when it is genuine, the person’s superego will be able to exact influence on the ego, and most times the person’s ego will say ‘I am going to let it go.’ Another example, if Mrs AC says sorry to Mr AC, Mr AC’s Conscience will feel guilty if he does not accept especially if it is genuine. He wants to show compassion and understanding. We delved into how an apology appeals to the superego component of the mind where a person’s conscious and ideal person lies- thus the person does not want to be a jerk he wants to be a nice person. An apology appeals to the superego component of the mind where a person’s conscious and ideal person lies. So in psychological terms, that is what the ego is and so when one talks about an apology. It is that part of the mind that thinks and takes decisions. The person’s ego might say ‘just for today let me have one cone of ice cream that is the ego. What does the ego do? The ego thinks about what is actually best for an individual. For instance, if an individual likes sweet things and he goes past a candy store or an ice cream truck, and he wants to get the ice cream, then the superego reminds him that sugar is not good for him. These constitute the superego it takes decision by negotiating between the id and the superego. The conscious is that part of an individual that makes him feel guilty when they do something inappropriate- the ideal self is that imaginary perfect self, of whom one who ought to be. We went on to analyse the superego, which has two components the conscious and the ideal self. However, to understand the ego, one needs to understand the id and superego, The ego operates on an unconscious level and the superego, on the other hand, is made up of the individual morals, values, upbringing, social norms and expectations. Thus the ego is the part of the mind that is instinctual, biologically is that part of the individual that drives the desires, their wants irrespective of the consequence.

Īccording to Freud, the ego is part of the mind that takes a decision, precisely there are three parts of the mind, which are the id, ego and superego. We validated the above submission with Sigmund Freud’s theory-he is one of the founding fathers of Psychology, psychoanalysis to be précised. We elucidated that the ego can be described as a person’s sense of self, their sense of identity, their sense of importance and self-esteem. To have an insight into the above subject matter, we foregrounded the definition of ego. We also dealt with ‘whether people can have a subject matter bias’? The reason for this question predicates the 5th Episode of EVA where we discussed that some lawyers are yet to embrace ADR. Is there an interplay between ego and apology, which are two sides of a coin when it comes to dispute resolution? I and Estar (Esther) Olaedo Ebigbo, a First Class graduate of psychology from the University of Nigeria, who works with persons with disabilities an inspirational singer, provided a comprehensive insight into the above-stated question.

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